Grandpa Ponsing’s Funeral

March 8, 2018

This evening, I attended Genevieve’s grandpa Ponsing’s viewing. Joining Genevieve and her family for this service made me think of death I’ve experienced in my life.

I recalled when my De De (dad’s father) passed away during my sophomore year of high school, my former miniature schnauzer Kramer’s death during freshman year, and my great grandpa John’s death when I was just 8 years old.

Now I start to prepare myself for when my grandma and grandpa, Nai Nai and great aunt Judy, and current dogs Riley “Bupp” and TK “Hule” will eventually pass on. It’s sad to think about. The last time I cried was when my mom told me about my grandpa’s current health condition several months ago – and that he’s not too far from eventually nearing his final stretch.

Despite death being sad, awkward and difficult to understand, death is a natural part of life. Below are some photos I took yesterday evening during the viewing service:


March 9, 2018

Today is the funeral service. It’s one of those partly sunny, partly cloudy days in San Diego, which reassures me of the fact that God is watching over Ponsing as he ascends into heaven. Although there will be moments of sadness today for all friends and family in attendance, there will also be moments of joy – as there were last night when Genevieve and her brother, Darrel, were joking about the good times and memories with Grandpa Ponsing.

This past Wednesday night, we flew to L.A. from Washington D.C. After landing, picking up Genevieve’s suitcase from the baggage claim, and picking up our rental car, it was already past 11 pm PST (2 am EST). We then drove nearly two hours south to arrive at our hotel in downtown San Diego at about 1 am PST. By then, I had been awake for almost 24 hours straight since waking up at 5 am EST on Wednesday morning to work from home before heading to the airport later that afternoon.

Last night, we went to bed early. This morning, we woke up early. We are dressed and ready for the funeral.

Photos from the service below:

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First “Spring Break” Since College


Today, I am embarking on my first vacation with my lovely girlfriend, Genevieve. We are headed to L.A., and will be spending time in San Diego with her family, Irvine with my family and Malibu – where Genevieve completed her undergraduate degree at Pepperdine University.

It’s definitely a much needed and long overdue break for both of us. A break from stressing over school, work and our daily lives as a whole. However, part of this trip does not 100% feel like a true vacation.

About a week ago, Genevieve’s grandpa passed away. As a result, we extended our trip by leaving a few days earlier than originally planned in order to attend the viewing and funeral service.

Genevieve loved, and still loves her grandpa so much; and she thinks about him every day. I’ve watched her cry countless tears after her grandpa’s death, and so this trip will not only be a homecoming to Pepperdine, but also a homecoming for Genevieve and her family to reconnect together spiritually with her grandpa; to remember and honor his life. As sad as the recent events have been, I am grateful to be a part of this journey with Genevieve, to be included with her family and to be by her side during this trip.

For Genevieve, this week and a half is her spring break. She still has some school work to keep up with during our travels, but aside from some studies here and there, she is absolutely excited about being in California with me, taking me to all of her favorite food spots, showing me around Pepperdine, introducing me to her family, and meeting my grandma and grand aunt.

As for me, I’m just relieved to get a break from work. My company, DealerOn, has been exhausting ourselves the past few months on our latest deal with Ford and the FordDirect automotive website program. In essence, I am managing about 62 website projects comprised mostly of Ford dealer websites, with some other makes sprinkled in such as Chrylser, Volkswagen, and Kia. As a result, I plan to use this next week and half off from work to get back into blogging, record footage for my first travel video entirely with Genevieve, and cherish time I’ll spend with Genevieve and our family/friends.

It’s been a long time since I last blogged. Moving forward, I plan to blog less about sports and my teams in KC, and focus more on myself and real life. I doubt I’ll have time to blog as much as I’d like to once I get back home, but I’ll start slow with today’s post.

The thought of California always puts me in a good mood. I love the weather, sunshine, beach, music, food, attractions, and visiting family. Overall, Genevieve and I are excited and grateful that we get the chance to venture off together at last. To her credit, she paid for our flight, rental car, and majority of the lodging. I’ll be returning the favor by covering all food, gas and other leisure expenses. We make a great team, and that’s why I love her so much and can’t wait to fly out!

Chiefs Summer Talk – Tamba Hali Frustrated

Tamba Hali - OLB, Kansas City Chiefs

At the end of July 2017, Kansas City Chiefs veteran outside linebacker, Tamba Hali, released a series of tweets on Twitter expressing his frustration toward the Chiefs organization regarding his lack of playing time and respect toward his tenure with the team.

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I completely understand his point of view and support his comments. Despite being an 11-year veteran who has dealt with injuries, he absolutely deserves more playing time. Tamba has done nothing but work hard throughout his career, play extremely well (455 career tackles, 89.5 sacks and 32 forced fumbles), stay out of trouble on and off the field, and give his all for the organization and Kansas City.

“Am I needed in KC anymore?”

The answer is yes. Yes, Tamba – you definitely are still needed in KC and always will be throughout the remainder of your career in the NFL. In my eyes, you’re a hero, icon, and very wise/much needed veteran presence for Kansas City as a football team and organization. In order to win in the playoffs and make a super bowl run this coming season, we need your leadership to get us over the final hump to overcome some of the top teams in the AFC – like New England, Pittsburgh and Oakland.

Do I understand Andy Reid commenting that Tamba should not have chosen Twitter as his platform to voice his frustration? Yes, absolutely. Social media can certainly be a dangerous avenue considering how much trouble athletes and other celebrities can get into when putting their thoughts on blast over social media. Ideally, it would have been best for Tamba to confront coach Reid and the Chiefs’ front office, as well as hold a constructive press conference to voice his concerns with the right messaging.

I strongly disagree with recently promoted (and youngest GM in the NFL) Brett Veach summing up Tamba’s recent input as a result of off-season boredom.

“I think Tamba forgot what day training camp started,” said Veach during a press conference after the tweets received mediate attention.

Tamba is not incompetent – he knows when training camp starts. He’s just eager to play and doesn’t want the end of his career to finish out with only 7 snaps in crucial games like the Pittsburgh playoff game – which is ridiculous.

From a fan’s perspective, I don’t believe veterans like Tamba Hali and Derrick Johnson should be overlooked just because of their age and battles with injuries. What if Chiefs former tight end and future hall-of-famer, Tony Gonzalez, finished his career with us instead of Atlanta? Would we have treated him this way? I doubt it. Tamba Hali is one of the best defensive players this franchise has ever had. Furthermore, he’s stuck with us through his entire career – even when we went 2-14 in 2012. That shows a lot.

I also believe that as a true sports fan – and particularly a Kansas City Chiefs fan – it is my duty to remain loyal to the Chiefs, Kansas City and any players who represent the Chiefs. As long as Chiefs players give their all on that field, demonstrate good sportsmanship, live humbly, and stay out of trouble off the field, I have nothing but respect for them no matter if the team wins or loses. To me, that’s what being a true fan is all about. So for Tamba to be frustrated like this, I feel like the least I can do is show my support.

At the end of the day, I’m only a fan with opinions like any other football fan. Pre-season is starting and the Chiefs will make their decisions one way or another. I just hope Tamba Hali gets treated better this season and realizes that from a fan’s point of view, we still appreciate him playing for Kansas City.

Back in job market, gracefully accepting reality


I’m back in the job market. It’s been about one week since I stopped working. Nine months after being unemployed from mid-October to November 2014, I find myself back in the same spot.

On the bright side, this allows me to re-evaluate my life and find a new opportunity.

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Kansas City Royals: A nontraditional mid-season report

We’re well past the mid-way point in Major League Baseball’s (MLB)
2015 season; and this should’ve been written immediately following the All-Star break in mid-July. But, let me just take a moment to say:

Kansas City is killing it this year!


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Transition to the real world: Life after college for a young professional

tie-690084_1280Lifestyle trends for recent college graduates in the U.S. are shifting. Landing a job after school, buying a house, and settling down to start a family is not always a standard path of life as it once was in past decades. Rising debt from student loans are causing many graduates to move back home with their parents, and work to save enough money to become independent and stand on their own feet.

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Enough is enough: Take away playoff rights!


This is just crazy. Tom Brady is already one of the highest paid and most famous quarterbacks in the NFL – so why did he need to cheat? Besides, this “cheating scandal” (which involved New England Patriots personnel underinflating footballs prior to the AFC Championship game) didn’t even make a difference in the outcome – the Patriots soundly defeated the Indianapolis Colts 45-7.

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